http://forums.psychcentral.com A safe and secure self-help support community run by Psych Central. en Fri, 18 May 2012 14:10:18 GMT vBulletin 60 http://forums.psychcentral.com/images/styles/pc/misc/rss.jpg http://forums.psychcentral.com http://forums.psychcentral.com/showthread.php?t=229667&goto=newpost Fri, 18 May 2012 14:08:42 GMT Gr. My PTSD seemed to be in remission for a good six months. Now flashbacks, nightmares, hypervigilance, ect...has all returned. So... Gr.

My PTSD seemed to be in remission for a good six months. Now flashbacks,
nightmares, hypervigilance, ect...has all returned.

So frustrated. Just needed to vent.

:mad::argh::hissyfit::sinking::sigh: ]]> Post-traumatic Stress lostmyway21 http://forums.psychcentral.com/showthread.php?t=229667 http://forums.psychcentral.com/showthread.php?t=229666&goto=newpost Fri, 18 May 2012 14:01:32 GMT ...does anyone else experience this? ...does anyone else experience this? ]]> Bipolar grlnmt66 http://forums.psychcentral.com/showthread.php?t=229666 http://forums.psychcentral.com/showthread.php?t=229665&goto=newpost Fri, 18 May 2012 13:27:31 GMT I got more than 100 points in my Sanity Score quiz. I wanted to score more than a hundred cos it's a bigger looking number. :o

Let's see.

Self esteem, General Coping and Phobias are my biggest problems.

I felt a little sad when I saw my problems spelled out for me in the post-quiz report. I am very tough on myself because of the way I live and the things I lack in my life, so I guess I felt validated by the report which suggests that a lot of my problems are clinical and maybe out of my control to some extent and not my fault. ]]> The Sanity Score Illegal Toilet http://forums.psychcentral.com/showthread.php?t=229665 http://forums.psychcentral.com/showthread.php?t=229664&goto=newpost Fri, 18 May 2012 13:21:52 GMT WARNING: this has a description of an extremely disturbing dream and lots of talk about how I want to hurt myself. Proceed with caution. I HAVE to... WARNING: this has a description of an extremely disturbing dream and lots of talk about how I want to hurt myself. Proceed with caution.

I HAVE to get this out. I don't see T until Monday and I might lose my mind. I feel so crazy right now.

I don't know how much more of these nightmares I can take. This last one woke me up. It was something stupid. Our roommate was showing us how to cook something and the ingredient can had this giant worm in it. It kind of looked like a dildo actually. But the way it was moving was horrible. It was like when you see dead things being consumed. And they are moving, jerkily, but they're dead inside and all that's left is this horrifying disease and I could feel them crawling on my skin. But the was part was in the dream our roommate was ok with it. He wasn't disturbed by it. I wanted to scream and run. And he's just standing there going, "What? What's wrong?"

I can't stop seeing that ****ing giant worm with its skin rippling with thousands of creepy crawly slithery things. I just knew it was going to split open and they would come pouring out and I would be ****ed. I'd be a million times bigger but I can't jump on ALL of them and they'd get in my hair and under my clothes.....

OH GOD ICK!!!

I just want to cut so bad right now. I don't think I've ever wanted to cry and puke at the same time.

I wonder what crazy theory T will have about this one. Probably that the roommate represents her and I'm me and all the slithery things are the thoughts/memories/ickness that I don't want to think about/inflict on her and she's going, "I'm not scared," and I'm going AHHHHHH! because I'm worried they're gonna come pouring out of me and overwhelm me.

Like I'm not already overwhelmed?!

I want to cut my arm into bloody ribbons. I don't want to think anymore. It's only 7:15 am, way to early to txt T. I'm gonna wait a couple hours and then see about a Saturday appointment. Or maybe I won't. I don't want this to turn out like last time.

You know what's funny? I woke up thinking, "I'd do anything to not have to think about that dream", or something similar, and that reminds me of the ex-T List.

Stupid ****ing ex-T. So unfair! We talked about thoughts I'd do anything not to have. And of course he wanted to know. Therapists always want to ****ing know the things you don't want to talk about. And we like them anyway. We're ****ing morons.

And I told him that I couldn't even say some of it out loud by myself. I would try, in the car. Some words just don't want to be said.

And someone had the brilliant ****ing idea of writing it down. (TERRIBLE IDEA!)

And I sat down and wrote the easier parts. The parts I could find words for. I still cried for like 6 hours. I wrote that list on 3/27, a Tues. Called on Weds, freaking out. Couldn't handle it. He told me he hoped that being able to call or email would occasionally help but it didn't seem like that was happening. That's right, I'd sent him an email Tues before I'd even begun writing the list, having bad thoughts about THINKING about writing the stupid ****ing list. And after having a ****ing breakdown over it I figured I had to, or it was all for nothing. So I made myself write it. And cried some more.

So on Weds he told me it didn't seem like email was helping. And this is only 2 weeks after the March 13 suicidal incident. I told him I couldn't handle this all with me getting a new job and finals fast approaching. I said I wanted to "take it easy" in therapy and "talk about less heavy stuff."

He was all for it. Fine. So how do we take it easy on Monday? He hits me with the ****ing contract. The "Dont bother calling or emailing, I won't respond." The "go to a psychiatrist even though I told you on Weds I didn't think we needed to do that yet," the "Go get therapy from someone else," The list of 99 things I have to do before I cut, if I fail at any of this you terminate me.

You left me anyway. You lied.

And now New-T wants me to trust her.

And how the **** do you follow up "Lets take it easy in therapy" with a restrictive punishing "contract" (ie, ultimatum)?

And you say its to help ME feel safe? No, its to help YOU feel safe. What I need to feel safe is for you not to poke around in my head and then run away and leave me alone when I'm scared and alone and confused. Not a ****ing list of rules that says don't ask me for anything unless it's monday from 5:00-5:50.

And, oh, you're good and you follow all the rules and you try really hard to be less crazy, because apparently your therapist is afraid of crazy people (or is it just you?!) and he leaves you anyway.

I convinced a student therapist to NOT be in private practice.

Maybe I didn't but I will ALWAYS wonder and worry. ]]> Psychotherapy InTherapy http://forums.psychcentral.com/showthread.php?t=229664 http://forums.psychcentral.com/showthread.php?t=229663&goto=newpost Fri, 18 May 2012 13:00:02 GMT So I went to the doctor yesterday for help with my depression. The doc gave me a prescription for Fluoxetine and said when I come in for a check up... So I went to the doctor yesterday for help with my depression. The doc gave me a prescription for Fluoxetine and said when I come in for a check up in two weeks if I've gotten my medical we'll look into some type of therapy. The pharmacist said the pills take some time (about 2 weeks) to start working.

I kinda didn't want to do meds, I like to do things the natural way, but I heard its best to do both meds and some type of talk therapy, and I really didn't want my depression to stay this bad (especially since I can't get therapy right away). So I'm OK with doing the meds for now, but I'm still really nervous.

My sister had trouble with depression a while back and she discribed the meds she was taking as making her feel emotionless. While I'm not taking the same meds as she was I am nervous about how what I'm taking will effect me.

Can anyone out there who has taken Fluoxetine tell me how it made you feel or something. Advise and comments are very welcomed. ]]> Psychiatric Medications LonelyTree http://forums.psychcentral.com/showthread.php?t=229663 http://forums.psychcentral.com/showthread.php?t=229662&goto=newpost Fri, 18 May 2012 12:59:53 GMT I could really use some advice. I don't know where to start. Some background on me is down at the bottom of the post)

I'm a 30 yr old woman dating a 23 year old man. He looks to be about 27 or 28, and in general, is a far cry from your average frat boy, but instead a very adult 20-something guy. (Keep reading before you judge please). We have been together now for a little over 2 years, and it's gotten much harder than it has easier. The person I fell in love with was a very sweet, caring guy, who loved me at my ugliest, held me when I cried my eyes out, and was always there for me. That guy more or less feels like he's fading away.

We moved into a small apartment and things seemed like they were on their way to getting better. I have continued to deal with my depression and problems, and for a while, things seemed to be getting a little bit better. I was starting to make some headway in the process of looking for work, while my boyfriend offered to take on all of my living expenses to make things easier on me. He said that I should just focus on what I need to do, and he'll take care of the finances.

He took on such a huge financial responsibility to help me, and I have always been very grateful. He has seemed like everything I never had and was always looking for. Aside from a long list of shared passions, the nice smile, great family, etc., He really is everything I thought I ever wanted in a guy. It took me a long time to get over the fact that he was so much younger than me, and I had, until a few months ago. Of course, he's always argued that the age difference doesn't make any difference whatsoever, but having clarity out of my 20's I know better...

Basically, the problems started a few months after we moved in together. When we first met, he had told me that he wanted to peruse his phd after college, study abroad in college, to travel the world... I used to think, Wow, what a catch! He's so sweet, motivated, is so smart... After we moved in, this entire phd process was supposed to begin. He was on schedule to begin studying or grad school tests, had to do a project for a work conference across the country, all while he was working full-time. I knew he had a lot on his plate, but we'd made a deal that I would make dinner nightly and take care of things around the house so he could devote his spare time to these really important tasks. We had also talked about the grad schools he'd apply to, to be certain that they all were in good locations for both of us, so if he got into any of the schools, the move would work out more or less for both of us.

Well, he didn't keep up his end of the bargain, in many ways. And a lot of money went down the drain for flights, test fees, school applications, you name it. I didn't let him forget any of the fault he had in that ( though I can't say that I should have). I ranted, pleaded, begged, etc. I said nothing, and he still didn't study, nothing. All in all, he had about 6 months to prepare himself, and he probably only put in a good 2.5 solid weeks of effort scattered throughout that time. I was angry for so many reasons, from the money down the drain, to the fact that I was killing myself to have dinner on the table, cleaning, etc, all while he stared blankly into the tv night after night, and just said "I know" when I mentioned he needed to study. I even tried to give him pep talks and help him with a schedule, nothing worked. I couldn't let it go, mostly because he is so so smart, so bright, and just threw all that time away. These actions made little sense to me. But things got even worse.

Long story short, I later found myself with him at this conference on the other side of the country the night before his presentation, as he scrambled the night before to throw the few hours of work he had done together. And come testing and application time for grad school? He did less than average, much poorer than the schools expected, and he didn't get into any of universities he applied to... but one. The one single application he didn't tell me about. Had we talked about this school? Nope. He was interested in another school in the area, but I had told him very clearly that I was not at all interested in moving to that area as it would be really bad for my career (no jobs there for me). But he applied anyway and was accepted. In the end, the school offered him a full scholarship and monthly stipend, meaning he wouldn't have to work for his entire education I was happy for the opportunity, but felt really betrayed.

I was beyond angry, really livid and completely devastated that he would do that to me, to us and this relationship, if it meant anything to him. He says he doesn't know what he was thinking or why he applied and has never really had an answer for me and even said that maybe he wasn't ready for school, and didn't need to go. To this day, I can't believe that was true. I think he applied somewhere that he knew he had a chance of being accepted to, and thought to deal with the consequences later, because after the 6 months has passed, he knew the other schools were not options.

This whole 6 months I'm thinking, what happened to the guy I knew with the motivation? The dreams? The guy I knew (and hope is still in there) turned into an unmotivated, careless boy. I mean, it took me about 8 months of kicking and screaming to finally get him to regularly clean something around the apartment. Still, I find myself frustrated that I am put in a motherly position in that he doesn't do anything for anyone other than himself unless I point it out and get very angry. But even when I ask calmly, 9 times out of 10, it wont happen.

Long story short, I said I would visit the school just to know that I could still fairly put a solid "no" stamp on it, because it wasn't going to work, and I did just that in the end. I didn't feel that it was fair to throw away my career and my life, for this lucky strike he had with this school, when he really didn't put in much effort into this process and wasn't passionate about it all. I told him that he was free to go, but he decided to turn down the offer.

After a many many visits with his family now, I really started to notice some things... like the fact that he's never really had to work for anything. He's never set a goal and worked to reach it. His family has always given him what he wanted or needed and has made life as smooth as they can. They gave their just enough encouragement to want things in life, but didn't build up enough self esteem to make them believe they could achieve it. Has he just not found himself because he's still so young? Or is it something else? It's a mystery. I try to talk to him, but it's not been very successful. I lot of, "i don't know"s. I am a very open, talkative person, and he has generally been good about having conversations about the same things, but I notice now that they were almost always about me. And I have to say, he wasn't always so touchy and defensive. But lately (the past 5 months), he snaps at me out of no where. Whenever I try to address the way he's acting, he gets very defensive and at first, passively angry, and at that point, starts saying a lot of really stupid things about the relationship that don't make sense, desperately reaching for some saving grace (like the fact that his tone was NOT in fact nasty) when it really, really was!

That school experience by far was the biggest blow to our relationship, but mostly I'm feeling him just shut down or act really odd. We have had big fights, huge, and lately, I feel like I'm being manipulated. He apologizes for something say, 2 days ago, and in the midst of an argument, denies that he ever did the thing he apologized for! Then when he's not mad, he tells me not to listen to him when he's angry. Well, I know that people say hurtful things sometimes, but he can easily start treating me like I'm making things up in my head.

I have NO idea what he is thinking. On the last few occasions that he did that "i never did that," thing, that has sent me into a totally nasty rage. I know this is not a great way to be, but I feel like his defensive, manipulative behaviors are just setting me off. I don't know anyone who would respond well to that, but for someone like me who is not in a great emotional place, I loose it.

I'm trying to be a better me, control my emotions, but he intentionally goes for the buttons to get the biggest reaction out of me when hes angry, and sometimes even when he's not. He has said some really hurtful things when we've fought, to the point where I've been bawling my eyes out, and I look up to see no emotion on his face. Sometimes it's really frightening. I am really, REALLY good at getting a feel for people, reading people, and when I look at him half the time, he looks so... empty.

I've pointed out that his apologies don't seem sincere, that he doesn't express emotion in his face at all and he just gets so angry with me and walks away. Other times, he is just SO selfish and had zero empathy.

Like tonight, I was on the bed rolled up in a ball, dying with awful menstrual cramps. We were supposed to make a (quick) dinner, but he was about to start doing the sinkful of dishes he had left from the night before. I wasn't sure at the time that he was going to do the dishes, but asked if we were still going to eat because it was getting late. He said, "I'm going to do the dishes. Can you make it?" I said, rolled up in my ball, "I really don't feel good right now." He says, "...but can you make it?" UGH. I just started crying, only slightly from the pain, but mainly because I just felt crushed that once again, he looked at me with this emptiness and lack of empathy. He's not someone I would typically say has a lack of common sense, but if there is some kind of emotional common sense, he lacks that. I tired to bring up what he did, and he mumbled "omg" under his breath then basically ignored me. Um, wtf....


This is all a vicious cycle because he does this really STUPID ****, and often says really heartless things, uses a really nasty voice when responding to me about things... and if I speak up about it, in any way shape or tone, he gets VERY defensive. I can't get him to look at is own actions, why they were wrong, or get him to understand how hurtful he's being. I really don't try to be condescending or lecture him about it, but it does often come up as we're fighting.

I want to have a conversation about it, but he shuts down or doesn't want to discuss it. And if he seems like for a moment he gets it? I get this blank faced, "I'm sorry" as I'm crying my eyes out in a puddle of tissues. No emotion. I can't tell at this point if I'm doing something wrong, if he's a REALLY emotionally immature 23 year old, or if he has some level of a schizoid personality or something. He doesn't really have very may friends, and admitting says that it's not good that he hasn't bothered to keep in touch with the ones he had. Even so, he doesn't make an effort and isn't close to anyone but me. He's been my best friend but we've become the worst enemies.

I really want to make this work, but we can't even have a fair fight, or 1 normal day together. If I back off and zip it for a while, I find myself in a situation like I'm in now— nothing taken care of around the house, sleeping on the floor away from the bed where he is, ignoring each other, and not speaking to each other at all. He doesn't do anything unless there's been a title bout beforehand. To clarify, I am typically the loud fireworks-type of fighter, but my point has been that while I want to keep my cool, while I want to stop my abusive ways, his actions make my head spin, and I can't control it. And he doesn't know why he does what he does, if he even gets to the point where he'll admit any of it and take responsibility. Then he says things that just make me feel like I'm drowning, and I end up crying all night until 4 am :\

I've had a lot of boyfriends over the years, but he's pretty new to dating long term. I've also lost a boyfriend and friend, and a parent to death, and have been through rough times, so life is very different, and deep to me. I find a lot of depth and importance in it and feel like he is the opposite, having experienced no life changing moments. I blaming myself in part for my big reactions, that maybe he's shutting down because of them, and that I'm not helping to show him what a good relationship is. I worry about that a lot, but when I can't have a calm conversation about our problems without getting cut off mid sentence because he's angry, or get a snappy defensive remark thrown at me... what's a person to do? I don't want to have any moments or rage, or explosive fights, but when you feel like you're being manipulated and jabbed at, how do you make things right? or keep your cool? I'm still financially dependent on him so I can't leave even if I wanted to, but I want to make things work. I know there's a good guy in there, the caring one I knew and loved, but he's making life so hard, and I don't understand why. He's been open to self help type of books. He bought one on emotional maturity an read it not long ago. I guess that didn't help... I bought him one on taking advantage of your 20's (i.e., not wasting important time in your life), but so far, nothing has clicked.

Any words of advice would be helpful. I'm on day "too many" of sleepless nights. Thanks :(


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Some background on me:

I grew up with an alcoholic father and more or less have been in a loveless, abusive, really toxic home my entire life, aside from the last year.

My mother and brother were severely damaged by my father's abusive ways and I had always been target practice, especially now that my dad is dead and gone (its been 11 years now). I no longer speak to her.

Really in total time, I've only managed to escape my home for about 4 years of my life, more or less in separate chunks of time. As with most adult children of alcoholics, I grew up with very very little self esteem, acted out as a teenager, but managed to get myself through school. However, I've had an awful time holding a job since I graduated from college, feeling totally worthless and clinging on to dear life at times, occasionally suicidal. I've had a problem being emotionally and sometimes physically abusive with boyfriends as well.

*Take note please that I am completely aware that I need therapy for my own issues, but have been holding on to money so tightly because I've been in and out of work. I literally can not afford the $15 per session that I can find locally on a sliding scale. I do have insight with my issues and take responsibility for my actions and realize that there are no excuses for them. My personal problem has been how to resolve them and to try to harness my emotions in the moment.

So, on to my current boyfriend and where the real problems lie. I met him while I was dating someone else and was in an awful relationship. We had feelings for eachother, and we found each other again a few months after my other relationship had ended. He had some life threatening medical problems and at the time, we grew much closer as I helped him when it happened through the entire process. He's healthy and fine now.

At the time that I broke things off with my ex boyfriend, I had no choice but to move back home with my verbally abusive family. I was out of work. Every day my mother would bad mouth me, and I could overhear her telling people how useless I was. Granted I am far from a lazy person, but I have had an internal battle deciding to help or not help her with things as she's continued to treat me like ****, even as an adult.

A few months after I moved back in, I got a job and was in and out of the house for a few months as I was pretty busy with work from early morning until night. Then a few months later, my job ended and I had nothing else lined up, and began to be pretty depressed being back at home full time. I started to confine myself to my bedroom to avoid my family and when I did get out, I would experience really extreme anxiety and panic attacks. My car was broken for months, so I literally had no way get away until the weekend came, and my boyfriend could come and basically rescue me on the weekends. (Our neighborhood was not safe enough for me to be out on foot).

Well, my boyfriends and I decided that I needed to get out of that house, at all costs, even if it was too early in our relationship to move in together. His living situation was ok but not ideal, and I was in emotional turmoil living at home. So we moved in together (begin reading at top of post now). ]]> PsychGirl123 http://forums.psychcentral.com/showthread.php?t=229662 http://forums.psychcentral.com/showthread.php?t=229656&goto=newpost Fri, 18 May 2012 12:08:45 GMT I know it's long but I'd appreciate some help, truly. :(

So. I'm twenty and basically live at my boyfriends house. I mean I live home, but I basically always sleep there and am considered a part of his family.. We are planning to get our own place in august.

His mom is great in many ways-- but she is a strong person, and knows what she wants when she wants it. Like yesterday-- she decided that everyone needed to drop what they are doing and clean the entire house. My boyfriend works full time, and makes more than his mom does (and his step dad makes a ton of money). The day before yesterday she did ask my bf to clean the bathroom, just not the entire house.. But anyway, just to pain a full picture here, I do all of my bfs laundry at his house, all mine (and some of the rest of my familys) at my house. I clean my bfs room daily, I clean my own maybe weekly. I do dishes at his house everday (not all of them), and I do dishes at my house maybe every other day. I help clean his entire house on days his mom decides more often than once a month. I clean more than his 16 year old sister.

Yesterday, for example, I cleaned half of the bathroom, the entire dining room, their spare bedroom, and his mothers bathroom. I was the first out of everyone cleaning and the last. :what:

Now-- my bf knows it bothers me that I do more housework at his than anyone else and wants me to just sit in his room while he does it all. But I'm not like that, and he doesn't do these things half as fast as me, and works full time, so I just do it so he can sit down with me and we can relax together.

It crawls under my skin that we are not moved out yet.. Drives me absolutely crazy. And has for over a year and a half now (on and off at least, but I think about how bad I wanna move out at least once a day). :eek:

Now to our fight :arguing:-- we fight over my doing more housework constantly, but last night he was telling me how we have it so good. Everything is just peachy. That freaked me out. I feel like it is me versus the world enough, then he goes and say something like thAt? I can't even have a quiet place to do homework when I want. I have no privacy. I don't have the freedom I need. I am slowly but surely going insane. And he is going to tell me how good we have it.

Sure, things are pretty good, except for the fact that I need to be on my own, in my own house, only taking care of my and his own chores, and doing them whenever the hell I want! :confused:

After he said that then he proceeded to tell me how I was feeling (mad according to him), which always sets me off on him. Don't f$&@ing tell me how I am feeling. :mad: but I told him I was really just miserable, depressed, and feeling very alone in the world, once again.

No one gets it :( . Including him. He wants to move out but not nearly as much as me. August is so freaking far away :(.

Am I wrong in any of this? Help? ]]> Bipolar 3little.birds http://forums.psychcentral.com/showthread.php?t=229656 http://forums.psychcentral.com/showthread.php?t=229654&goto=newpost Fri, 18 May 2012 11:19:57 GMT I had dinner at my real house with my wife and kids again last night. I was tired and not feeling too good when I got home to my little rathole... I had dinner at my real house with my wife and kids again last night. I was tired and not feeling too good when I got home to my little rathole apartment. When I finally got to bed, I was just getting comfortable and ready for sleep when my cell phone alerted for a text message. Grumbled a little reaching to answer it, then saw it was my estranged separated wife texting to say "I love you". I responded that I loved her too, but I really wanted to get this right this time. Said I don't care how long it takes, as long as it's right. She agreed. We texted back and forth for a few minutes about trying to get our own issues solved so we can work together on the marriage. We even talked a little about the rough plan we're starting to come up with for a recommitment ceremony for just the two of us when we're ready to undo the legal separation and be a couple and a family again.

A simple "I love u" text doesn't sound like much, but after all the bitterness and anger finally culminating in an affair and filing for divorce, that's pretty huge. I think we're finally moving the right direction toward putting this thing back together. Just have to remember to keep moving slow and steady and be prepared for setbacks, but I think we can make this work again. Good news for once. ]]> Divorce and Separation bowhunt72 http://forums.psychcentral.com/showthread.php?t=229654 http://forums.psychcentral.com/showthread.php?t=229653&goto=newpost Fri, 18 May 2012 10:50:14 GMT It's a stressful world we live in. A report indicated that one in every fifteen people is depressed in Japan [1] . Perhaps you have noticed a friend or a colleague showing signs of depression? Maybe it ...

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From Yahoo Health. ]]> News Headlines NewsBot http://forums.psychcentral.com/showthread.php?t=229653 http://forums.psychcentral.com/showthread.php?t=229652&goto=newpost Fri, 18 May 2012 10:49:01 GMT Hi, i'm 15 years old, my parents are divorced and i live with my mom and her boyfriend. Lately I've felt like nothing i do is ever good enough. My mom yell at me fr eery little thing, her boyfriend yells at me for what she doesn't, my dad hates me because I hate his girlfriend, my brother and sister hate me cause I'm the oldest, and my best frieds are beginning to stop talking to me. Does anybody care abut me at all ause it feels like they don't...I feel like evrybody would be happier if I just left and never came back... ]]> New Member Introductions depressed96 http://forums.psychcentral.com/showthread.php?t=229652 http://forums.psychcentral.com/showthread.php?t=229651&goto=newpost Fri, 18 May 2012 10:22:03 GMT Okay, this is going to sound weird. How can you tell the differences between depression and being stable? I've been doing this mood thing for the past four days and it seriously makes me look bad. I swear on paper I look like a mess but how would I know if I am a mess or just stable? I wish I never took up this project. I really don't want to do this for the next 5 days. I don't know if I'm just concentrating on negative things or what. She's going to think I'm a lot worse then I am. If I am this much of a mess how would I know if it's being stable or depressed? I don't know if what I recognized depression was a deep depression and this is lighter or if it's just because people look worse on paper.

If I don't make since sorry, I haven't sleep for at least 1.5 days because I just don't want to. I'll try to explain it differently if the post can't be understood. ]]> Bipolar http://forums.psychcentral.com/showthread.php?t=229651 http://forums.psychcentral.com/showthread.php?t=229649&goto=newpost Fri, 18 May 2012 09:22:08 GMT has left us in great distress. the session itself went very well but the aftermath isnt good. and we dont have the privilege of phone contact so the... has left us in great distress. the session itself went very well but the aftermath isnt good. and we dont have the privilege of phone contact so the only thing left is email which right now just isnt enough. we are trying every coping skill we have doing our best to stay present and grounded but failing pretty badly. we havent actively acted on SI in a very long time but failed at that as well. it feels like the pain is eating at us like acid and now we have the agony of 2 entire weeks until our next session,yes we have asked for weekly but so far she has no openings. feeling so utterly hopeless right now and we hate that. we should be stronger. we should be smarter. we should not feel bad. but we fail. we fail. we are sorry. :( ]]> Psychotherapy TrinityDancer http://forums.psychcentral.com/showthread.php?t=229649 http://forums.psychcentral.com/showthread.php?t=229648&goto=newpost Fri, 18 May 2012 09:11:16 GMT http://www.rr.com/news/topic/article/rr/8459870/68798492/Ring_of_Fire_eclipse_visible_from_China_to_Texas http://www.rr.com/news/topic/article...China_to_Texas ]]> Current Events and News Discussion Timgt5 http://forums.psychcentral.com/showthread.php?t=229648 http://forums.psychcentral.com/showthread.php?t=229647&goto=newpost Fri, 18 May 2012 09:03:58 GMT Whenever I obsess over someone I always imagine they are doing something really exciting or wholesome, or just plain better than what I'm doing.

I guess this fuels the obsession, and I continue with it.

I'd like to know of your own experiences with this defective thought process, and how to defeat it.

Regards,

Toilet. ]]> General Social Chat Illegal Toilet http://forums.psychcentral.com/showthread.php?t=229647 http://forums.psychcentral.com/showthread.php?t=229646&goto=newpost Fri, 18 May 2012 08:27:58 GMT Lately I've taken so much crap from people who think I should not be on meds. I don't take much meds, but people keep telling me (online and offline) how I need to stop taking meds.

It doesn't matter what I say. I don't like being on meds. But they saved me.

But everyone knows me better than me, so maybe I should flush my meds. I don't think I can take the pressure and the negativity anymore. ]]> Psychiatric Medications jimrat http://forums.psychcentral.com/showthread.php?t=229646